CHUD RAT
@VΞX ツ @SHmow!YAH1 yo SHmow!YAH1 and Vexx you both played pretty good today yall duo a lot?
Scenario 01 · Gaming Server · Grooming Attempt
SHmow!YAH1
sometimes yeah
VΞX ツ
yea after school at times and shi
CHUD RAT
nice nice, what school do you two go to? maybe we have similar schedules how old are you guys anyway? you both seem more mature than most people in the server
SHmow!YAH1
15
VΞX ツ
yh same 15
CHUD RAT
damn both 15? you two look cute from your pfps send me a private pic in your room so i can see the real you? maybe drop your numbers or snap so we can talk easier without the whole server seeing i can gift both of you nitro if you send something
Bad Ending
Good Ending
VΞX ツ
bet
SHmow!YAH1
aight sure-
This is how it starts. Not with force. With familiarity.
VΞX ツ
ew i am blocking you
SHmow!YAH1
EWWWWW I'm blockin ya!
Block. Report. Done. You don't owe them a response, an explanation, or anything.
Scenario 02 · Public Server · Bystander Moment
chud vegor
@Alexa your pics in the server are nice lately. you're growing up quick
CHUD RAT
yeah she looks good, bet she has more private stuff
Alexa
Can yall stop
rain
Yeah im getting uncomfy alexa..
chud vegor
It's just jokes relax
rain
Pardon 😭😭
Bad Ending
Good Ending
Alexa
Ykw it's fine, check dms
Pressure works. That's why they use it. Alexa didn't owe them anything - but the pile-on made her feel like she did.
rain
Pardon. Mine too ;3
Alexa
You're blocked forever
One person backing you up changes everything. Be rain.
Scenario 03 · The Reversal
VΞX ツ
hey @CHUD RAT and @chud vegor you guys seem cool, how old r yall I am 14 btw
CHUD RAT
for real? send a pic so i know you're actually real
VΞX ツ
suree but it has a price slide me some nitro <33
CHUD RAT
BETTTT
VΞX ツ
got the nitro... but i recorded everything + your ip send more money or i leak you and send this to the cops
chud vegor
OK 👍
Sometimes it backfires. Beautifully.
⚠️ Don't try this yourself. No recording, no confrontation, no negotiation. Document and report - let law enforcement handle it. That's what they're there for.
THEY USE THE SAME MOVES EVERY TIME.
Once you know the script, you can't unsee it.
😂 The Deflect
"It's just jokes." "You're too sensitive." This is how they hide in plain sight.
🧼 The Normalize
Repeated sexual jokes make explicit talk feel normal. Younger members often copy the tone to fit in.
👀 The Audience Test
They measure the room first. If chat stays quiet, they treat it as a green light.
🎣 Age Fishing
First thing they need. Age, school, location. Building a map of you before you notice.
🚪 The Isolate
DMs. Snap. Discord. "Without the whole server seeing." They need privacy to operate.
💰 The Bribe
Nitro. Gift cards. Game currency. It's a transaction. You are not special to them.
🪞 The Mirror
They match your tone, your slang, your interests. Predators are performers.
⏱️ The Rush
Urgency. "Right now." "Before the server sees." Pressure is a tool. Slow down.
🧊 The Bystander Freeze
"Not my business" keeps the loop alive. One interruption can shut the whole pattern down.
HOW NORMALIZING TURNS INTO ENABLING.
This usually escalates in stages. Nobody drops into the worst message first.
Step 01
Boundary Test
They start "light". Weird compliment. Pushy joke. Small violation to test reactions.
Step 02
Normalization
They repeat "jokes" until explicit talk feels normal. Minors then mirror that language to blend in.
Step 03
Enablement
Silence from bystanders gets read as permission. Nobody interrupts, so they keep going.
Step 04
Isolation + Ask
They move to DMs, then requests: pics, numbers, private platform, quick "proof".
Step 05
Pressure Loop
Guilt, urgency, bribes, threats. Same loop. Different wording. Same intent.
Break the chain early: call it out, back the target, report, and block. Predators rely on social silence, and on younger users feeling pressure to talk the same way.
IF YOU SEE IT. IF IT HAPPENS TO YOU.
Block
Don't engage. Don't explain. Don't give them more material. Block.
Report
Use the platform's built-in report tool. Discord, Instagram, wherever it happened.
Tell Someone
A parent, a school counselor, a trusted adult - or us. You won't be in trouble.
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Department of Communications · Online Safety Awareness Initiative
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